If there's one thing I can't stand it's a woman who doesn't stand up for herself. Not in a way that she will be regarded as a 'bitch,' or 'self righteous', or 'too sensitive,' but in a way that states that she is strong and she will not put up with disrespect in any form. Watching a woman crumble under the pressure of another person's words, actions, or oh-so-loud body language is simply unacceptable. As a woman, one should feel as though she deserves a certain level of respect and consideration. When your boyfriend treats you like crap, or ignores your wishes, or refuses to change a particular behavior after you've spoken about it, do you crumble? Do you let him win? Do you forget that you deserve that ounce of respect and recognition of your needs, rather than just what is best for him? When your best friend says something hurtful and acknowledges the fact that it hurt you, do you let it slide? Do you confront the issue and demand the respect you give her to be reciprocated, or do you avoid conflict in order to appease those around you?
Being strong and having limits is worlds away from being a world class bitch, but sometimes that's what people will say when they are simply at a loss for words to describe that strength which we all poses yet we so infrequently exercise. I have known plenty of people who dislike me because I speak my mind and usually have an opinion on the matter at hand, I also know plenty of people who dislike me because I am outspoken and do not deal well with other people's so-called bullshit, disrespect, and blatant disregard for the emotional well being of others. I've put myself out there for people when I probably shouldn't have, and sure I've regretted things I've said to people and the way I've handled myself when I'm upset, but I'd rather make those same mistakes twenty times over than be the girl who sews her lips shut when she is faced with adversity. The girl who lets men (err, boys rather) walk all over her, and treat her as though she doesn't deserve better. The girl who lets people tell her who she is, the girl who collapses, the girl who is weak willed and codependent. So go ahead and call me a bitch, call me outspoken, tell me I have an attitude. You surely only 'know' these attributes I posses because at one point you deserved to experience them.
Soundtrack:
Desert Song - Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros
Meta Lick - Rusko
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